First I wanted to write just about FOMO. Then I started writing and realised I had so much more to say. So much more to say about happiness, self-confidence and being content. And about how social media and social expectations affect us.
One thing that everyone should get rid of in order to enjoy life to its fullest, is fear of missing out. You could spend every single day thinking about the things you should do and things that you might miss out on. You can try to make a decision and always end up thinking about the other options you’re leaving out. Or, you could just simply be content with whatever you choose and have the self confidence to do whatever makes you happy in that moment.
Probably everyone of us has at some point of our lives envied someone. Maybe because of what they have, how they look or what their life is like. And how do we react when someone else has something we want? Most likely by wasting our energy at the negative feelings. The best way to get rid of those feelings is by thinking why do you feel like it and how can you achieve the things you want. If you envy your friends, you might be able to change things around by trying your best to be happy for them. In the best case scenario, the person you envy can actually help you realise your dreams.
ALWAYS WANTING MORE
Wanting another piece of chocolate after having one. Wanting a new job or a promotion just after starting at your current one. Having an endless travel bucket list. And the list goes on! It’s okay to want new things, travel more, see the world, gain new experiences and challenge yourself. But the problem with always wanting more is that we stop appreciating the things we already have. We start taking everything for granted and find it hard to be happy. If its too hard to be grateful for the things you have now, think back 5 years and see how far you’ve come.
You want to change your life, move somewhere else, jump into a new relationship, quit a job you hate or just get a haircut. But you can’t because you’re too scared of the things that could go wrong. What if I start missing home? What if I can’t find a new job? Well you never know, especially if you never try. If you fail, you can always go back. But not giving it a chance will probably haunt you much longer than giving it a chance. Thinking about all the what ifs doesn’t take you anywhere and it truly is just waste of your own energy and happiness. Sometimes you just need to be brave enough to make a decision. And usually, everything works out in the end.
COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
There will always be people who are better than you at something. Or who have something you want. If you constantly compare yourself to others, it will eat you alive. You can never be anyone else or have someone else’s life. But what you can do, is become the best version of yourself, whatever it might mean to you. You can start by being grateful for yourself and by focusing on the good things in your life and in yourself. After all its just a mental game, and if you stop focusing on the bad things, they will eventually disappear.
By the way, here’s a little fun fact. Earlier, when people went to see a plastic surgeon, they usually brought a photo of a celebrity to show what they wanted. Today, lots of people bring a screenshot of their selfie with a Snapchat/Instagram filter. How crazy is that! Not saying that wanting to look like a celebrity would be any better, but I don’t think filters are the solution either.
SEEKING SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE
Everyone always asks me how many readers does my blog have and have I carefully studied Google Analytics. The answers are I have no idea and nope. Because if I started to stare at the numbers, I think I wouldn’t enjoy writing anymore. I think I would become trapped by the numbers and only start seeking more readers. I would probably set goals for myself and feel like I shouldn’t keep on writing if I didn’t have a certain amount of visitors every week. Many people say that whenever they start doing things for social acceptance, they stop enjoying doing those things. That’s why the only motivators anyone should have, are their own happiness and self acceptance.
I’LL JUST EMBARRASS MYSELF
Four years ago we decided with my little sister that we’re gonna delete the word “embarrassing” from our vocabulary. Because why on earth should we do or not do thing based on what people would think about us? Why should we always first consider if something is embarrassing or not? I think the word should be deleted from everyone’s vocabulary. If you want to do yoga in the middle of a park but suck at it, so what? Or if you answer a question wrong in a class room in front of everyone else, so what? At least you tried. When you stop caring about other people’s opinions, the happier your life will be. Of course you still can be considerate, but you sure as hell don’t have to leave things undone just because you don’t want to embarrass yourself.