Why is it so difficult to stay present and enjoy the moment? We all are constantly thinking about the future, stressing about things we have to do or worrying about the past. And whenever we would have a chance to enjoy the moment, we probably think how that moment could be even better or what is missing.
I remember that a year ago I couldn’t wait to move to Australia. To move here was the thing I wanted the most and it was what I was thinking about all the time. And now that I am here? I’m constantly worrying about the future and about how to build a life and a career that I would really enjoy.
Before moving here I knew that it’s going to take some time before I find my place here. I knew that living in a big city like Sydney will be the best option in the beginning but not something that will fulfill my soul in a long run. I knew that I won’t have a big social circle or community around me here for a while. And I knew that my career won’t kickstart after migrating to a new country with only limited working rights in the beginning.
It was actually my sister who reminded me, when I was telling her about my feelings, that maybe I just need to accept where I am at the moment and stop comparing my life to the expectations I have. And just enjoy the moment.
Being young and ambitious, it’s sometimes difficult to be patient, accept things as they come and enjoy the present. But in order to enjoy the moment, patience and acceptance are what we need. Patience to know that your life is going to the right direction. And acceptance to be grateful for where you are at the moment.
But did you know that staying present is also a skill that you can work on? You don’t need to instantly find that zen in all the aspects of your life but rather gradually work towards that direction.
Here are my favourite things to do when I notice that my mind is all over the place and its difficult to be present.
For example going for a run always clears my head and focusing on one thing is much easier afterwards. However, lots of people do sports these days just to lose weight or punish themselves for eating unhealthily. To really get the best benefits of doing sports, try something you truly enjoy, or start learning something new. Learning new things is always fun and a good way to stay in a moment by focusing on one thing.
Being surrounded by nature
Nature is the best stress reliever, and its been proven so many times. Spending time outdoors in nature really reduces stress. To stay present, try mindfully listen to the sounds, explore your surroundings and focus on the things and colours you see around.
Finding the flow
Of course this is easier said than done but finding the flow is just the ultimate way to stay present. You can reach the flow state in anything you enjoy doing – reading, writing, cooking, painting, running, yoga, even cleaning. I personally love to do inversions and balance poses in yoga since you really need to focus and be in the moment to stay in the pose.
Meditation even for a couple minutes can make a difference. Just focus on your breathing and come up with a mantra that you will repeat in your mind. For example repeat ”I choose to let go” in your mind and try to let go of any thoughts (especially the negative and stressful ones) in your mind.